It’s A Real Come-To-Jesus-And-Nelson Mandela Moment!
Three posts ago in “Ghost Writer,” I reported how my mother came back three times after her death to tell me she “wished she could have been there more” for me. To continue that story, after Mom’s third visit, I decided it was time to stop blaming and start forgiving. And actually I realized had a powerful resource just waiting for me on my closet shelf: the Satori game, developed by a couple of my friends, Debbie Unterman and DeAnna Hohnhurst. They are also the creators of an earlier game called Clarity. The story about how Satori came to be goes something like this: when Colin Tipping, author of the 1997 book Radical Forgiveness, played Clarity, he was so impressed that he asked the women to design Satori, The Radical Forgiveness Game, for him.
According to Tipping, radical is different than ordinary forgiveness in that with the radical version you get to see how the person you are “forgiving” is really doing you a favor on a higher, spiritual level, even though s/he may be acting like a jerk on the earth plane. The game spirals players from victimhood to a realization that there is really nothing to forgive, which is true enlightenment, or Satori as it is called in Zen. I was one of the first to play Satori after it was produced in 2004. Immediately I was captivated by its potent ability to divine the unconscious issues of the players, so of course I bought one.
Although Satori is intended to be played with more than one player, after the ghostly encounters with Mom, I played it by myself, and I will have to say that had its advantages: it took less time, and because I wasn’t distracted by the issues other players were dealing with, I could fully concentrate on my own. What I got to see with Mom during the game is that the wording of her apology was especially important because I was supposed to really get this forgiveness thing, and that in order to accomplish that, in life she had to do something major for which I would then have to forgive her. Enter: nasty put-downs throughout my relationship with her. At the end of the game my Satori was that she is totally magnificent in her love for me. (After all, not everyone makes the effort to communicate from beyond the grave, especially more than once!)
Very quickly I moved to my next aha: we are long overdue for some radical forgiveness on national levels as well as personal. Nelson Mandela is a perfect example of how it is possible to transform a country by forgiving one’s enemies. Over 2000 years ago Jesus preached the same message. It’s about time we got it!
In early March, 2014, at a meeting of First Georgia Dowsers, I had a chance to test my theory that Satori can be played effectively by a group of people. I had been invited to be a speaker on the power of play, an idea I have been “playing around with” for about ten years. (Incidentally, in my vocabulary, the definition of play includes, but is not limited to games.) During my presentation I told the story of my mom and Satori. This prompted someone in the audience to ask if we could play the game for pollution in the world right then. I answered with an enthusiastic yes, and it wasn’t hard at all: one person threw the die and drew cards for the whole group while the rest of us stood around the table and talked about what we were learning. About halfway through I felt a huge shift of energy as people began seeing the part they were playing in the issue we had chosen to focus on.
Now, in addition to writing my future, I am also seeing myself, along with lots of others, playing the future. Oh, this is getting really, really big!