Play for Peace

It’s A Real Come-To-Jesus-And-Nelson Mandela Moment!

Three posts ago in “Ghost Writer,” I reported how my mother came back three times after her death to tell me she “wished she could have been there more” for me. To continue that story, after Mom’s third visit, I decided it was time to stop blaming and start forgiving. And actually I realized had a powerful resource just waiting for me on my closet shelf: the Satori game, developed by a couple of my friends, Debbie Unterman and DeAnna Hohnhurst. They are also the creators of an earlier game called Clarity. The story about how Satori came to be goes something like this: when Colin Tipping, author of the 1997 book Radical Forgiveness, played Clarity, he was so impressed that he asked the women to design Satori, The Radical Forgiveness Game, for him.

According to Tipping, radical is different than ordinary forgiveness in that with the radical version you get to see how the person you are “forgiving” is really doing you a favor on a higher, spiritual level, even though s/he may be acting like a jerk on the earth plane. The game spirals players from victimhood to a realization that there is really nothing to forgive, which is true enlightenment, or Satori as it is called in Zen. I was one of the first to play Satori after it was produced in 2004. Immediately I was captivated by its potent ability to divine the unconscious issues of the players, so of course I bought one.

Although Satori is intended to be played with more than one player, after the ghostly encounters with Mom, I played it by myself, and I will have to say that had its advantages: it took less time, and because I wasn’t distracted by the issues other players were dealing with, I could fully concentrate on my own. What I got to see with Mom during the game is that the wording of her apology was especially important because I was supposed to really get this forgiveness thing, and that in order to accomplish that, in life she had to do something major for which I would then have to forgive her. Enter: nasty put-downs throughout my relationship with her. At the end of the game my Satori was that she is totally magnificent in her love for me. (After all, not everyone makes the effort to communicate from beyond the grave, especially more than once!)

Very quickly I moved to my next aha: we are long overdue for some radical forgiveness on national levels as well as personal. Nelson Mandela is a perfect example of how it is possible to transform a country by forgiving one’s enemies. Over 2000 years ago Jesus preached the same message. It’s about time we got it!

In early March, 2014, at a meeting of First Georgia Dowsers, I had a chance to test my theory that Satori can be played effectively by a group of people. I had been invited to be a speaker on the power of play, an idea I have been “playing around with” for about ten years. (Incidentally, in my vocabulary, the definition of play includes, but is not limited to games.) During my presentation I told the story of my mom and Satori. This prompted someone in the audience to ask if we could play the game for pollution in the world right then. I answered with an enthusiastic yes, and it wasn’t hard at all: one person threw the die and drew cards for the whole group while the rest of us stood around the table and talked about what we were learning. About halfway through I felt a huge shift of energy as people began seeing the part they were playing in the issue we had chosen to focus on.

Now, in addition to writing my future, I am also seeing myself, along with lots of others, playing the future. Oh, this is getting really, really big!

7 thoughts on “Play for Peace

  1. Debbie Unterman

    J.K., you wrote that story up beautifully. Let’s start a movement! You know who else is of the same mind? Barbara Marx Hubbard says the Universe is playful. And don’t we know that is true!

    One of the things I love best when I begin to play Clarity with people who often have never played it, is that the Universe starts making us laugh right away when we’re still rolling for who goes first. Sometimes we’ll roll 2, 3 ,4, 5 around the table, or sometimes we will have a tie and when we roll again, another tie and another, until everyone around the table is laughing and we get the joke! It’s like the Universe is tickling us until we giggle. And that’s before the game even starts! It just continues from there.

    1. jkwinters Post author

      I love it, Debbie! Perhaps someone along the way made a typo and we are supposed do more playing, not praying! Which reminds me of another religious joke about spelling. Perhaps you’ve heard the one about the monk who kept banging his head against the wall after he discovered that the correct spelling in the original document was “celebrate,” not “celibate.”

  2. DeAnna Hohnhorst

    Dear JK Winters,
    Thank you for writing me back into the STORY of the game of Clarity. I have always believed that PLAY is a thru WAY.

    I am smiling and LAuGhing big time right now after reading your reply to Debbie’s comment.
    Why? It is your regerence to TYPos..
    You see there is also One in this comment and Uno in the spelling of my name on the Satori Box.
    May the games of Radical Forgiveness and Clarity PlAy on!!
    How fun is that?
    To pray, yes play all

    Cheers’ with my Best

    -DeAnna HOhnHOrst

  3. Debbie Unterman

    DeAnna, Yes, I noticed the typo on your name, but I thought it was so much better than the way Colin spells it on the box of Satori, that I didn’t mention it. Thanks for coming through on your own behalf. And we need to thank J. K.for giving us our due on the early creation portion of the Game of Satori, although of course Colin had final control over everything.

    And J.K., can you just see people who have relatives in the hospital telling them “I’ll be playing for you”? Hmmm, I can see an interesting scenario for a psych student to use a control group to look at that. Let’s see the stats on intercessory play. If they play Satori or Clarity, it just could work!

    1. jkwinters Post author

      Well, I’m glad you two are having so much fun. Out of site! Out of mind.(It’s a word play joke, of course.)

      1. DeAnna Hohnhorst

        Yes, J.K. Here in the Satori Land of the Forgotten Coast of Florida I
        Am having fun and enjoying the beauty, wisdom and playFULLness of your wordplay, I mean World Play.

        What makes me giggle the most about typos even in the many spellings of my Fathers name is that i have always had to play a name game with that One. It is designed to be typODE! Besides, I think typos are an ingenious way Universal Words slip in, so to
        ADD variety in uniqueness ++ develop unimagined expressions of language for the written and spoken WORD. And Yes, and surely, was I ever in the mood for a good giggle when I received your note the other night. Such Good mood Food for the heart and soul you write!

        Your healing story of your clarity and ultimate Satori was a wonderful share. Thank you for reaching out to include me in your story. Playing the future IS big. The future is..NOW. The future is..FUN. The future is

        Loving what you bring to the games, the way you PLAY and most of all the beingness so many can find in the writings you shhhare. PLAY ON, write on, RIGHT ON and on and on and on…J.K.Winters!

        Much love for you here.
        – DEA HO HO
        aka DeAnna Hohnhorst

        PS – The HAiku set you published really touched my heart but I experienced a techno-snafu trying to thank you too ++ for those well formed Written Winter Words.Beautiful.

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